Sexting 101: Spicy Sexting Ideas To Try With Your Partner

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Lesbian porn is generally one of the most popular porn categories on the web, but other sexy sites—like those dedicated to erotica—are also having a major moment right now. I mean, we are spending a lot more time home alone these days, so it makes sense that people want to feel aroused! While many either listen to or watch porn on their laptops and phones, written porn (aka erotica) is great for anyone who likes something a little less graphic (but just as hot!). With that, allow me to highlight a few great lesbian erotica options to fill your time.

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Seduction can begin weeks before over text, and lead right up to a teasing moment of foreplay, stating your designs on your partner’s body. Present-tense narration is a simple and surprisingly powerful way to transform language into a sort of vibrator for your mind, enhancing whatever you and your partner are already enjoying. And the check-in is a way to get more mileage out of your awesome sex by sending an aftercare reminder, bringing you back into the moment with the simplest sentence. In sex as in the rest of life, everyone loves to be flattered.

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• Meet people online but never give your personal details out to someone you do not trust, This includes things such as email address and phone number.
• “Just like the physical act of sexuality, the build-up is where the fun is,” Eros reminds us.
• Just being more comfortable expressing your sexuality through language is a big step.
• Even the basics are more than enough to get you and your partner revved up.

The intersection of dirty talk and technology is such a huge topic that I literally wrote a whole book about it. One of the biggest themes I wanted to emphasize with that project was that every technological innovation is a tool for belonging. From current trends in sexting and video chat to not-too-distant-future ideas like virtual reality sex and artificially intelligent robot girlfriends, we have the power to harness tech for connection instead of alienation. All we have to do is stay grounded in the needs that make us human.

“At first for most people who talk dirty, it ends up being very basic stuff like you know, ‘That feels good, keep going, don’t stop,'” says Marin. Even the basics are more than enough to get you and your partner revved up. Don’t be afraid to take it slow when it comes to dirty talk that’s in real-time. There’s a variety of transitions into it that help ease you both in. But once you’ve done some of the above exercises on your own, it’s time to do it with a partner. Keep in mind, though, that your partner may very well want to do that solo work and develop their own word bank.

Courtney enjoys using her strap-on when she has sex and prefers it, especially when dealing with bottom-heavy women. “I feel like I have so much control over the woman [when using a strap-on] and it usually makes them feel really good,” she says. Like Courtney, I enjoy the dominant feeling I have when using a strap-on with a woman. There are questions about what the woman using the “strap” gets from it. I offer that it’s more of an aroused response to the woman’s enjoyment and from watching her experience the pleasure. It’s flat out recommended that initial explorations into dirty talk start as a solo activity, whether it’s practicing getting vocal or just exploring linguistic genres of erotica while masturbating.

Enter erotic author Jacqueline Jillinghoff, who has already contributed three exquisite stories to our site. Out of the blue, she offered to do some editing for Juicy Secrets after I bemoaned my work load in a story comment. Honestly, I wasn’t fishing for assistance, but wasn’t about to say no, either – especially not to someone who unquestionably had the writer’s chops that the task required. “It’s all about telling your partner how much of a turn-on it is for you to know that you are turning them on,” Eros says. “The best way to show this is not by just saying what you want or plan to do or how you feel, but the ‘why’ behind it. Getting to the ‘why’ really helps add so much more sexual detail.” With some basic education around sexting etiquette (and a little dash of confidence), you’ll be ready to hit send on the spiciest of texts in no time.

In my own experiences, I’ve focused a lot on bringing women to orgasm. I wouldn’t stop what I was doing until she at least appeared to be satiated, orgasm or not. I realize now that I often rely on maneuvers that men have used with me, and the women seem to enjoy them. “[Sex between women] tends to be more about exploration of bodies,” Aryka concludes. Clean your sex toys after every time you have sex. Realize that lesbian bodies come in many forms (including pre-surgery trans women.) Ask your partner how their genitals like to be touched and how you can validate their gender identity in the bedroom.

And yet, the list of movies who’ve accomplished the same feat is painfully abbreviated. Don’t talk to me about Blue is the Warmest Color, a movie made famous for its extended, impractical sex scenes and allegations of harassment by its director, Abdellatif Kechiche. Kechiche reportedly bullied the two female protagonists as well as his staff, forcing them to work 16-hour workdays under extreme pressure. Critics further accused the director of creating “voyeuristic” sex scenes intended to solicit the male gaze. I was recently re-watching some porn DVDs from my collection when I realized I had forgotten how on point superstar Sasha Grey’s dirty talk always is.

Meet people online but never give your personal details out to someone you do not trust, This includes things such as email address and phone number. We class this information as personal and sensitive. We also advise that you register an account to secure your username so that nobody else can use it.

Horn suggests starting with discovering your own personal sexual persona or personas. In the kink community, there’s a laundry list of labels and even tests you can take to get an idea of common archetypes, power dynamics, and fantasies you might want to play around with through dirty talk. Like all skills, it takes practice and requires immersing yourself further in the world of erotic storytelling. That means not only engaging with the more structured narratives of written, visual, or audio erotica, but also borrowing ideas and language from the more improvised erotic narratives of roleplaying from the kink community.